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I invite you to close your eyes and feel your breath. Now imagine you are at an important meeting. You are asked a question by your superior. You don’t know the answer. Notice what happens in your body. Do you relax and open or do you constrict? If you are like most people you probably constrict.

Many times people ask me what it is like to work with me. The best way to explain it is through a poem.

I attribute this deep sense of peace to two things. The first is understanding where my experience comes from. I came across a beautiful understanding called the Three Principles. Sydney Banks, the man who had an enlightening experience, showed me that I do not experience my circumstance, I experience my thinking around them. For example, I can have my employee quit. The employee quitting is neutral. What I think about is what I will experience. If I am sad that she is leaving, then I will be sad. If I am angry when she quits, I will feel anger. My thinking creates my experience.

It is 90 degrees in my house. Much cooler than the 98 degrees yesterday. Northern California is in a heat wave. When I drove through the hills, I saw a patch of dry parched earth, longing to be soaked by the rain.I know how this earth feels. I have been parched inside. I didn’t know that I was parched. I thought it was normal to be so dry. What caused my internal drought? My lack of self worth and self love. I thought I had done a pretty good job loving and taking care of myself. I eat healthy, do yoga and pilates, sleep and enjoy my life. I have a wonderful relationship with a man who worships me and I love my children and I believe they love me in return.

I can’t see this energy because it is invisible. When my mind quiets down and I let go of my concepts I feel this energy. I feel the peace, beauty and well being in me. It is like my light turns on and I radiate the energy beaming through me. I walk around with a smile on my face for no reason other than being alive.

Relationships are tricky. I am like every other human being and have struggled and suffered in them. I was in an abusive marriage where my ex husband ridiculed and berated me. I was dumped and heartbroken by my best friend over something I still don’t understand. I left a job when I didn’t get along with my boss. And then I came across The Three Principles. This understanding transformed everything for me in relationships. It allowed me to see that I am not experiencing the other person, I am experiencing my thoughts of the other person.